the opening.

Self-love is beautiful to find. I discovered it only after heartbreak on heartbreak, but that’s okay. Eventually, I recognized the need for it, and I dedicated time to growing love within and for myself. I learned that I am the whole. I am not the half. I am not made to complete someone, nor is there anyone out there who can complete me. Rather, we will be two wholes that come together as one. One multiplied by one is still what?

Right. One.

I've noticed that everyone's all about self-care these days, and it's so beautiful. But in your quest for self-love and care don’t close yourself off to the possibility of being loved.

When I was first healing, there were times I wanted to swear off another relationship, but I guess I'm too much of a hopeless romantic, and also just too honest with myself.

I know I’m not designed to be alone, and I don't wanna be. I want a witness to my life and a partner in this journey.

Part of self-care is centering yourself, so that as life ebbs and flows, you don’t lose your balance.

When I first began to fall in love with my guy, I was totally afraid I would lose the balance I’d worked so hard to find. I think he and I were both afraid in the beginning. But then, it was like okay you know what? If I don’t at least try, then what was all this for? I can’t remain in this cocoon transforming forever. Eventually, I’ve gotta emerge and spread these new, beautiful wings.

Bottom line: I want to share my earthly existence with someone I’m able to love authentically, because I am in tune with the depths of who I really am at the core. And who I am at my best.

I'm still on a quest for more self-love. I'm sure I always will be. But now, I have a witness who cares about my journey, and it is so nice not to feel like I'm in this thing alone.

Do the work, my beautiful sister. Find your self-love, but also be open to being found by someone who will love you the way you finally know you deserve.